As I’ve mentioned recently, I struggle with insecurity and trying to measure my worth by my abilities, characteristics, and performance.
When I was in elementary school, I was a dork, and some kids made fun of my hair. Ever since then, I’ve struggled with insecurity about how my hair looks. “Will people think my hair is cool, or will they think I’m a dork?”
Well, just over a week ago, my friend and fellow staffer, Michael Wallace, preached the weekend message at Faith Promise Church, and at the beginning, he included a comment about my hair. Saying it was as compliment might be a stretch, but it still made my day. In fact, I cropped out the video so I can watch it whenever I want to.
It’s embarrassing to write this post, but I’m doing it for a couple of reasons:
1) To thank Michael Wallace. :)
2) To make the point that our insecurities create a black hole within us that can never really be satisfied with compliments. Heck, someone even mentioned my hair from a stage in front of hundreds of people, but that didn’t cure my insecurity. Instead, we have to learn to think more about others and less about ourselves. We can let our insecurities fill us with fear and keep us from connecting with others, or we can choose to ignore our discomfort and think about how we can make a difference in the lives of the people around us.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve wasted enough time worrying about myself.
I’m far from being a professional in this area, but I thought it would be fun to put together a few tips for any guys out there who might dye their hair some day.
- Prepare yourself mentally beforehand. All the good hair dye colors have women on the front of the package. The boxes will talk about vitamins, shine, and other stuff you care nothing about. Just pick out the color that looks best. Once you’ve selected a color, take notice of the woman on the front of the box. You’ll need to find her again if you like the way the color turns out (or avoid her, if you don’t).
- Make sure to purchase a small empty shampoo travel bottle while you’re out shopping. You’ll thank me for this later. (If you don’t have a mirror, make sure to get one of those too.)
- When you get ready to check out, don’t worry about what the checker thinks. He or she will probably just assume all this stuff is for your wife or girlfriend, so don’t sweat it. (If you’re really concerned, go ahead and buy some tampons too. That will certainly remove all doubt.)
- When you’re home and ready to dye your hair, make sure to take off your shirt first. It’s not in the instructions, but if you’re doing this by yourself, it will make things easier when it’s time to rinse the dye out.
- If you have short hair, rather than mixing the dye like they’ve suggested, pour a third of each of the dying elements into the small empty travel bottle and shake the mixture up in there. This will let you save enough unmixed dye to do your hair twice more. (Just so you know, they’re not kidding about the bottle exploding if you try to save the mixed dye. It might not be as dramatic as a bomb exploding, but it will at least leave a nasty puddle of dye on your counter top.)
- There should be two gloves in the dye box. Rather than using both, just put on one. Use one hand for applying the dye and the other for holding the mirror and wiping off extra dye with toilet paper. When you do this, you’ll probably notice that these gloves were made for small hands, but you don’t really need to use your pinky anyway.
- Once you’ve applied the dye, waited for the recommended amount of time, and are ready to rinse your hair, make sure you have a dark towel with you . Just to be safe, you should probably use a dark towel to dry your hair at least the next two or three times you wash it.
- Once you’re done, put the dye components, the extra glove, and the directions back in the box and store for next time. Rinse out the travel shampoo bottle in the sink and it will be ready too.
- Congratulations, you’ve managed to dye your hair without losing a y chromosome in the process!
Yesterday, I thought it would be interesting to get a haircut, and once I made that decision, I proceeded to go all out and get it colored as well. I’ve always wanted to do bright red, so this was very exciting for me.
Today, we also visited the Great Wall and also the 2008 Olympic Park. What an amazing day! I’ll post a few pics tomorrow.