As I mentioned in a previous post, I really struggle to be an encouragement to my wife. Honestly, that’s a bit of an understatement. The reality is that she is the one who gets the dark side of my systematic and critical thinking. As you can probably imagine, she finds it very discouraging. Without intending to, I often deflate her with my words.
This is really hard to write. Of all the things I hate about my flesh, this is probably the part I hate most.
“So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” – Romans 7:21-24 (NIV)
The Apostle Paul continues that passage to say that his deliverance comes through Jesus Christ. Like Paul, through Jesus, I’m beginning to find victory in this area – learning that I don’t need to be less of a critical thinker. Just the opposite. I need to apply my critical thinking to understand how important it is for me to be my wife’s primary source of encouragement.